Your overall level of dating competence is measured through four distinct domains: mindset, heartset, skillset, and habitset. Your competence within these domains allows you, as a dater, to perform certain abilities with ease. Let's explore how each domain applies to your romantic life.

Your overall level of dating competence is measured through four distinct domains: mindset, heartset, skillset, and habitset. Your competence within these domains allows you, as a dater, to perform certain abilities with ease. Let's explore how each domain applies to your romantic life.

If you have experience in any sort of corporate situation, you’ve probably heard of KPIs. The acronym stands for key performance indicators. Key performance indicators let us know when we’re on the right track toward meeting our business goals. Similarly, dating KPIs indicate when we’re on track for meeting our relationship goals.

Through the media and normal cultural conditioning, we’ve adopted many unhelpful romantic assumptions that precipitate challenges for us in relationships. I refer to these unrealistic cultural expectations as our collective “Relationship Mythology.”

Although I primarily help gay singles level up their dating skills, I also work with couples to master their romantic magic, and I occasionally work with celebrity matchmaking clients. One of my celebrity matches was between Matt and Daniel, the first successful gay couple on the Married at First Sight TV franchise.

Love isn’t a fairytale—it’s more like a video game, and the #1 reason anyone is single is because they’re trying to have a Level 25 relationship with Level 3 skills. Today we’re going to look at the major skill level differences and how they impact your romantic progress.

Healthy romantic love consists of four main elements: commitment, connection, chemistry, and consistency. Each element of love corresponds to one of the four alchemical elements (air, water, fire, and earth), all of which I collectively refer to as the Love Elements. Understanding the Love Elements is a crucial foundation for recognizing romantic love and compatibility. Let’s take a look at the connections.

When we started working together, Derrick (on the right) came to me and said, “Amari, where are all the good guys and how do I find the one for me? I’ve tried all the dating sites and they’re all garbage. Everybody just wants sex; nobody seems truly interested in a relationship. Should I just accept that I’ll be single forever?”

Your romantic attachment style is the pattern you consistently use to connect with others on an emotionally intimate level. Developed primarily from your childhood relationships with your parents/guardians, attachment styles generally form by the age of three and significantly impact our romantic relationships as adults.