The Backstory
Though Ja’Mon had been in off-and-on relationships, at 30 he had never experienced the emotional depth or consistency he really wanted and he wasn’t sure he could.

“I realized I’d never truly seen myself as someone who could be in a real relationship beyond just the physical.”

He didn’t know exactly what he was doing wrong but he was clear that he wasn’t doing something right. That realization led him to seek my guidance.

The Love Blocks

Ja'Mon's core relationship readiness gap was his self-confidence.

“I can admit it’s my self doubt. Am I attractive enough? Am I good enough? Am EYE enough?” 

Because Ja’Mon hadn’t built internal evidence of his own worthiness for a healthy partnership, he consistently found himself in romantic situations that mirrored that uncertainty.

Additionally, whenever a connection showed signs of becoming more meaningful, Ja’Mon didn’t yet have the tools to confidently navigate that next level.

As a result, he defaulted to what felt familiar and safe: casual, situationship dynamics that required less vulnerability but also sacrificed his fulfillment.

The Breakthrough
The only thing we have to sacrifice to have the healthy romantic love we desire is our stories about why we can’t have it. Our brains are wired for story and there is no story more powerful than the one we tell ourselves about ourselves. The core belief you have to accept is that you are lovable as you are, where you are, right now. 

We took a two-tiered approach to re-wiring Ja’Mon’s self confidence.

First, we dismantled the self-doubt that had been quietly driving his romantic decisions by both clarifying the value he brings to romantic relationships and developing dating standards that reflect his value.

Second, we equipped him with the emotional and communication skills necessary to sustain deeper connection. This included learning how to express interest without fear, navigate vulnerability without retreating, and recognize the difference between healthy progression and familiar dysfunction.

The Bond
Ja’Mon trusted the process, did everything I suggested, and started dating Tim less than six months after working with me. Shortly after celebrating their first anniversary, Ja'Mon proposed and the beautiful couple tied the knot in June 2023!

“Don't throw in the towel on love, especially if you're a Black queer soul navigating the dating maze. Those seemingly ‘silly’ dating and matchmaking services might just hold the keys to your heart's desire. Just make sure you've got some extra coins to spare before you dive in!”

Is Your Love Story Next?

If you’re ready to master your romantic magic, the next step is to schedule a 1-on-1 consultation with me.

During our session, we’ll assess your relationship goals, identify your dating strengths & skill gaps, and create a customized plan to develop your skills to lasting love levels within the next 3-12 months.

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Amari Ice is a gay love coach, matchmaker, and master hypnotist who helps successful singles master their romantic magic by developing their dating skills and becoming their own matchmakers so that love becomes inevitable. Take the free Dating Skills Quiz to discover your dating skill level.